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Why I’m Giving Up My (Other) Blog

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his week I published the last post I’ll ever write for ShoeperWoman.com – which, for those of you just joining us, is the last of many different blogs I’ve owned and run over the course of the last decade. (In addition to this one, obviously.)

I was going to say here that the decision to quit was a hard one, but the fact is, it was and it wasn’t. I mean, I started ShoeperWoman in 2009, and, for many years, it was the biggest – and most profitable – of all of my sites. It was the site that paid my mortgage for a good few years: the site I spent evenings and weekends working on, because it was so important to keep it updated, keep people coming back to it, keep it making money. It was a huge part of my life, in other words: and, as well as earning me an income, it also helped me connect with other shoe/fashion lovers, many of whom I still consider friends to this day. 

A couple of years ago, though, things changed. The blogosphere changed. The way people consume content changed. Instagram changed. And, I guess, most of all, I changed. 

When I started ShoeperWoman, it was purely a shoe blog: one where I’d post photos of shoes I liked, along with a little blurb about where to buy them, and what to wear with them. On the internet of 2009, you could get away with stuff like that. Now, though? We have Instagram and Pinterest for that kind of thing, thanks. These days, people aren’t really looking to blogs for shopping recommendations – and I don’t blame them.  Earlier this year, I realised I’d pretty much stopped reading blogs that only publish wish list/gift guide type content – and even the ones that just post outfit photos, if I’m perfectly honest. And it’s not that I’m not interested in outfit photos, either: nope, I’m still fascinated by what people wear, and what they buy – it’s just that I can get that information on Instagram now. I prefer to get that information on Instagram, actually: and I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one. 

Why I decided to give up on my other blog
There’s a saying in the blogging world that you should write the blog you’d like to read yourself, and I think that’s pretty sound advice. What I realised a couple of years ago was that I didn’t really want to write – or, indeed, read – posts about a single pair of shoes, or why I decided to wear that skirt with this top. That’s absolutely not intended to be a criticism of anyone who DOES write that type of content, by the way: and it’s not even to say that I’ll never do it again myself. But it’s not really the direction I want to move in any more, because it’s just not something that interests me much.

But I had a shoe blog. 

One that pretty much relied on me finding shoes to show people, and then coming up with something to say about them. 

And, honestly, it had started to feel like a real chore. 

By this point, of course, I’d already realised that niche blogging just wasn’t for me. I mean, I really wish it WAS: I have a sneaking suspicion that this blog (and definitely my Instagram account) would be a lot more successful if I could just pick a topic and stick to it – if I wasn’t writing about parenting one day, and microblading the next.  But, having said that, I know for sure that the blog wouldn’t continue to exist if I tried to stick to just one topic: it’s just not me, and it never will be. I’ve learned the hard way that no matter how fascinating a particular topic is to me NOW, it doesn’t necessarily follow that it’ll still be fascinating to me five years from now: or that I’ll be able to continue coming up with new things to say about it, even if it is. The main reason this blog has lasted for as long as it has, after all  – and the reason I’ll NEVER give it up – is the fact that I write about whatever the hell I want here: for better or for worse. 

But ShoeperWoman was a shoe blog. Shoes were the reason people started reading it, and shoes were what they expected to see on it. So, I continued to write about shoes for as long as I possibly could, and then, when it became obvious to me that, actually, people WEREN’T really looking for a entire blog about shoes any more, I switched tactic, and tried to expand the site to include fashion and lifestyle topics, too. Honestly, though, it was still a struggle: partly because I was now basically writing about the same topics I cover here at Forever Amber, but also because the other blogging lesson I’ve learned the hard way is that there just aren’t enough hours in the day for one person to run two blogs. Or, not if the one person is ME, anyway. I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who run multiple blogs without breaking a sweat, but, for me, it was a case of constantly spreading myself too thin, and always feeling that I wasn’t doing justice to either site, because there just wasn’t time. 

And, when Max was born, I realised there was never going to BE time, either. 

I think a lot of us have a tendency to go through life always thinking that there’ll someday be more time for everything. I know I do. But, one of the hardest things about becoming a parent for me has been coming to the realisation that there just isn’t going to be more time – not for a very LONG time, anyway. I mean, he’ll go to nursery, of course, and then to school, and, when that happens, I guess Terry I will be able to claw back some of the time that’s currently being sucked into the endless routine of changing nappies and rebuilding the stacking cup tower that Max has just knocked down for the 165th time that day. But there will never be as much time as there was before he was born: not until he’s much, much older. So, I’ve had to accept that I’m probably not going to finish the second draft of my book any time soon, for instance. And I’m not going to be able to continue running two websites, either. It’s just not possible right now. 

So, last week I wrote my final post for ShoeperWoman.com, before handing the site over to a new owner, who I hope will be able to give it the time and attention it deserves. 

I have very mixed feelings about it. 

On the one hand, I know the decision was the right one – it being the ONLY one I could really have made under the circumstances. 

On the other hand, though, it’s hard to spend almost a decade working on something – to build it up from nothing, and invest years and years of your life into it, only to one day give it up. It feels a bit like failing, to be honest, even although I know it isn’t, really. The fact is, I built a site that was successful for 9 entire years: that’s longer than any traditional job I’ve ever had. If I’d started a “real” job back in 2009, it’s reasonable to assume that I might well have moved on from it by now: people do, after all. But giving up on a job I created myself feels a bit different, somehow: which is why I felt quite sad as I hit “publish” on that last-ever post this week, and suddenly found myself with just one blog to my name – this one –  for the first time ever

While having all of my eggs in just the one blogging basket – er, so to speak – might sound a little bit risky, though, I have absolutely no doubt that it’s the right decision for me. This blog, you see, is much more than just a job to me. And sure, right now it is ALSO my job – and my ONLY job, at that – but I’ve always said that, even if it stopped making money tomorrow, I’d still keep writing it. Maybe not at the same frequency, or in quite the same way, obviously, but I started this site because I loved writing, and wanted a place to be able to document my life, and absolutely nothing has changed about that. I don’t think it ever will. 

So, it may be the end of my career as a shoe blogger: but it’s definitely not the end of my blogging career. And you never know: with just one site to focus on now, it might even be just the start of a whole new blogging era…

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14 Comments
  • Dee
    November 21, 2018

    I discovered your writing through Shoeperwoman round about 2010 – I think I’d vaguely been aware of your posts for Shoewawa up until then! – and while I always loved your updates about your shoe collection and taking part in the various Shoe Challenges of the early 2010s, in more recent years it’s been this blog that I’ve really enjoyed (I don’t comment much but I read every post). So yes, it does feel like a bit of an end of an era as a reader too, but I’m always excited to see where you go next with your writing!

  • Catherine
    November 21, 2018

    What Dee said. You are very entertaining and that’s what I come back for. Thank you for keeping going through what must be exhausting days for you.

  • Erin
    November 21, 2018

    I found you through your personal blog and although I knew you had other blog(s) at some point, I had never read them. I’m here for the personal stories.

  • Erika
    November 21, 2018

    I’ve followed along with you for many, many years now, and it is a little like the end of an era for us as well. With the help of the Shoeper Woman, I discovered a bit about my own fashion sense. 🙂
    Your blogs have always been a pleasure to read, and I am happy to hear that this one won’t be going anywhere anytime soon.

  • Markella
    November 21, 2018

    I also discovered you through ShoeperWoman, and I loved reading the articles there. But I enjoyed reading your personal blog (this one!), and your life updates way more. I love you writing style, and you sense of humour, and even though it’s a bit sad to read about you writing the last post on ShoeperWoman, I understand why you did it. I’m sure it’s the right decision for you, and I look forward to reading more posts on this one. 🙂

  • Lynn
    November 21, 2018

    Same for me. I found you somewhere in 2009 on Shoeperwoman, then migrated more and more to forever amber. now its been years since i’ve visited shoeperwoman (sorry!). In 2010 I was high heel crazy, now not so much anymore. We all change:)
    We’re here for your stories:)!

  • Kuburat
    November 21, 2018

    Dear Amber, I have been reading your blog for over a year now. I so much love the woman that you are and don’t worry you won’t ever go out of money.

  • Kelly Glen
    November 21, 2018

    I am so pleased you are not giving up on this blog as well, I always look forward to reading your posts no matter what the subject is about. You just seem to have a way with words that makes any topic interesting , it’s also really nice to read and follow yours and Terry’s journey into being parents with the delightful and super cute Max. And thank you allowing us all along with you.
    Take care and all the best.

  • Nithya
    November 22, 2018

    I discovered you through The Fashion Police, and then Shoeperwoman. This was back when I was in my early twenties and just beginning to take an interest in fashion. I loved how irreverent and funny you were and in many ways you shaped my attitudes towards fashion too: don’t take it, or yourself, too seriously. That said, this is the blog I return to read every few days and I haven’t read Shoeperwoman in weeks. This decision totally makes sense for you and if it means we all get to see more pictures and stories of Max, everybody wins!

  • LindaLibraLoca
    November 22, 2018

    I understand that it was a hard decision. All the work that went into it! But as a fellow mom I know what you mean. I honesty don’t know what I did with my time before the kids were born, I must have wasted hours upon hours every day!

    Anne – Linda, Libra, Loca

  • Tracey
    November 22, 2018

    I remember when Shoeperwoman started, I was there with a comment on every single post. And I did that for years. Until one day I didn’t really have the time any more. As you say, things change, and people move on. It was a great ride and holy cow, you found some amazing shoes for us!

  • Sora
    November 24, 2018

    I had no idea you had another site! :O But I agree with you: it’s so hard to do niche blogging! Especially when you find yourself changing constantly! I could never do it myself, so I applaud you for the bravery of handing over the other one!

    Sora | http://dangerouslyme.com/

  • Emma
    January 24, 2019

    I just stumbled across your blog today, and I have to say as someone who loves fashion, skincare, and has a young child I’m glad you didn’t pick a niche! Anyway I really enjoy your writing

  • Tuga
    February 10, 2019

    Hi Amber,
    I found you through Pinterest a few years ago, then I realized you had this blog. What an amazing discovery! I have been following you ever since.
    Currently my life changed, I no longer have so much free time, but I try to keep up whenever I can, even if it means going months into my email backlog, lol. What firstly atracted me, where your outfit posts. What made me stay trough all these years, were your other posts. I love your writting and sense of humour. Please, don’t ever change that! Also, please don’t stop the outfit posts. I understand Instagram is better for that kind of posts, but it’s still nice to see the pics here and read about why you choose that dress or why that shirt goes better with those trousers. I really like those posts (also I don’t have an account in instagram).
    More than anything, please keep up with your blog and amazing writing 😊

AD | We’re spending a few days at @highlandheatherlodges in beautiful Perthshire, for what Terry is optimistically referring to as his ‘birthday week’. (I say ‘optimistically’ - we’re only here for three days, and his birthday was yesterday, but don’t stop believing, Terry!)⁣
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There’s a hot tub for us and a playpark for Max, so needless to say, we’re having a fantastic time, and I’m already dreading having to leave. Today’s big question: can I pass as an under-12, so I qualify for a pony ride at the nearby wildlife centre? 🤔 (On second thoughts, don’t answer that one...)⁣
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AD | Time for a quick game of “Where’s Amber?”⁣
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It’s another rainy Monday, so I’m throwing it back to our trip to @universalorlando ‘s amazing Volcano Bay water park last month. I’m a bit of a scaredy when it comes to water flumes, but this park had tons of stuff for pretty much everyone: plenty of rides for me, and an amazing splash pad for Max 👶In fact, I’d still be on The Fearless River right now if I possibly could be. Still, doing the laundry and turning the heating on will be just as good, right? Right?! 🌋 🏊‍♀️ .
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Good news! We took Max to hospital this morning, and saw two different surgeons, who agreed there was no need to go ahead with the surgery as his lip is healing really well on its own 😅  He’ll definitely have a scar, unfortunately, but that would’ve been the case whether he’d had the surgery or not, and if it turns out to be worse than anticipated, we’ll have the option to have it corrected under local anaesthetic when he’s older. ⁣
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I’m still really upset that this happened in the first place, obviously, but so relieved that we don’t have to put him through a general anaesthetic, and just incredibly grateful that it wasn’t anything worse. I know some parents have to deal with much more serious stuff than this, and my heart goes out to you all: it’s been a rough couple of days, and I’m really grateful to everyone who took the time to comment on yesterday’s post - your stories were so comforting when I was panicking yesterday ❤️ ⁣
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(Old photo, obviously: every time Max sees the selfie camera, he thinks it’s going to be one of those filters where you open your mouth and something happens 😂)⁣
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Totally unrelated photo, but we’ve just spent the morning in Accident & Emergency with Max, who fell on the path outside the house and split his lip open 😥 ⁣
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They tried to stitch it up at A&E, but it was totally impossible with him awake, so they’ve booked him in to have it done under general anaesthetic tomorrow ... Max is absolutely fine: the bleeding stopped quickly, he doesn’t seem to be in pain, and is just his normal, happy little self. I, on the other hand, am a complete wreck: the plastic surgeon he saw today reckons if we don’t have it fixed, his lip will be crooked when it heals, but I’m absolutely *terrified* of the thought of my baby having to have a GA. ⁣
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If you’re a long-time follower, you might know that I have a full-blown phobia of general anaesthetic (I literally had an elective c-section in order to eliminate the possibility of an emergency one, which might have had to be done under GA), so I just can’t get my head to accept that it’s safe and he’ll be fine 😥 ⁣
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Positive stories and advice very welcome: I’m just so terrified, I can’t even imagine how to get through the next 24 hours 😥😥😥

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#throwbackthursday to last week, when I needed a sunhat and SPF 50 to leave the house, rather than the current raincoat and wellies situation. Can you tell the post-holiday blues are still in full swing over here? 🌧 .
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#throwbackthursday to last week, when...

I posted this on Stories over the weekend, but he looked so cute in it I figured it deserved a spot on the grid, too! This is Max all ready for his friend Eleah’s 1st birthday party on Saturday: despite the jetlag and his continuing obsession with doors of all kinds (He had an entire soft play at his disposal, but he mostly just wanted to open and close the gate into it...) he had an absolute ball, and spent the whole drive home shouting, “HAPPY! HAPPY!” Thanks to @thestirlingstyle for a great party 🥳 🎈 🎉 . (Oh, and that’s his hairbrush in his hand - boy likes to look his best 😉)
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