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Why I probably won’t reply to your email asking to guest post on my blog

Guest post requests: they’ve slowly replaced emails asking me to work for free as the most annoying thing in my inbox, and honestly, I’m at the point where I’m ready to just burn the damn things with fire.

I get dozens of guest post requests every single day, amounting to at least a couple of hundred each week. I don’t reply to any of them – and here’s why…
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This is MY blog, and I want to be the one who writes it

Now, I’m not dissing multi-author blogs here in any way at all: when they work, they can work really well, and having guest posters or paid freelancers contributing to your site is  a totally valid business model. OBVIOUSLY.

This, however, is a personal blog. Sure, it has sections on fashion, parenting, blogging, etc, but it’s still a personal blog: so, if I’m writing about fashion, it’s going to be either something I’ve worn personally, or something I’ve learned about style. The blogging tips are things I’ve learned myself, through years of trial and error, so I know they work – or don’t work, as the case may be. The parenting section, meanwhile, focuses on my personal experience as a new parent, while the opinions are mine and mine alone. I’ve used a few stock photos here and there, when I’ve been really stuck for an image to accompany a post, but, for the most part, the photos and images are mine too: either taken by me, or taken OFF me.

It’s all my own work, in other words, and I want it to stay that way: so, unless you’re planning to don a long red wig and some totally impractical shoes, and prance around in the snow pretending to be me, then NO, you cannot contribute to my blog. It’s not that I don’t think anyone else can do as good a job as I do, obviously: it’s just that I’m proud to have created something that’s 100% my own, and as this site functions as my diary, in addition to being my business, it would feel really odd to me to have other people writing it.

I hate guest posts on other sites

I don’t want guest content on my site, and honestly? I don’t like seeing it on other sites, either. I’m not referring here to magazine-style sites which have always had multiple authors, of course, but when a blogger I follow throws up a guest post, because they didn’t have time to write something themselves? I’m almost definitely going to skip it.

I cast no shade on people who do this, I hasten to add: allowing guest posts is a totally legitimate way to keep your blog running while you’re on holiday, say, or otherwise unable to update. So, this is a purely personal thing, but the fact is, if I’m reading your blog, it’s because I’m interested in YOU: your style, your opinions, your unique way of expressing yourself. Um, I’ve just realised I’ve made myself sound a bit like a stalker there, so I’ll just quickly say here that I mean that in the least-stalkery way possible – it’s just that I don’t tend to read blogs that aren’t personal in some way, so if you remove the personal element from yours, I probably won’t read it either: or I won’t read that particular post, at least.

(Yes, I do realise I could be missing out on some amazing new content by taking this stance, it’s er, just one of my cute little foibles: my online time is really limited right now, and there are so many bloggers competing for airspace that, for me to want to invest the time in reading a post, I have to already know I enjoy the writer’s work, or see something REALLY compelling in the headline or whatever. So I won’t ignore ALL guest posts, but I will ignore MOST of them, even although I know they might turn out to be awesome.)

If I don’t like guest posts on other sites, why would I accept them on mine, then? I mean, I can’t be the only person who doesn’t like them, can I?

I don’t believe you when you say you’ve read my blog

The first thing that tells me you haven’t read my blog is the fact that you’re even bothering to contact me about guest posting in the first place: I actually state on my contact page that I don’t accept them, so if you didn’t get my details from that page, you presumably got it from a mailing list, and are NOT, in fact, the “huge fan” of my blog that you claim to be.

(Other clues that you’re not a “fan”: the fact that you, a) Don’t seem to know my name, and b) Claim to have been reading my blog for YEARS, and yet your ABSOLUTE FAVOURITE post just so happens to be the one I published this very morning, how about that! And, I mean, I’m really glad you enjoyed my review of that tube of toothpaste, seriously, but I’m just going to take a wild guess that it’s the ONLY thing of mine you’ve ever read – and you probably didn’t even read it either, did you? Seriously, I won’t be even remotely surprised if, after publishing this post, I get a ton of guest post requests from people saying, “I’m a huge fan of your blog: my favourite post is, ‘Why I probably won’t reply to your email asking to guest post on my blog.’ I was wondering if you accept guest posts?” )

If I DID accept guest posts, though (And just in case you missed this fact, I DON’T), I’d only accept ones that were such a great fit for the rest of the content that they were virtually indistinguishable from it. So, no, your guide to using Tinder probably isn’t going to cut it, really, and neither is that article on American football, tattoo parlours or raising pet llamas. Sorry.

(Actually, I’ll take a quick squiz at the one about the llamas: I’m not made of stone, after all…)

Your request was rude, or you harassed me for a response to it

One of the stranger aspects of the many, many guest posts requests I’m getting right now is that they’re not actually requests at all: they’re demands – and pretty rude ones, at that. Sure, some people are perfectly nice about it, and are probably decent bloggers who’ve just bought into the idea that guest posting is the best way to grow their blog (I don’t tend to get emails from those people, though, because the truly decent bloggers will already have checked out my blog, and established that I don’t accept guest content on it…), but quite a few of  them are obviously from SEO companies or the like, who’ll just say, “I need to place a post on your blog: get back to me with prices.” Um… how ’bout NO?

Even if the initial response wasn’t rude, the follow-up often can be, with people starting to pester me for a response just hours after sending their initial email. A few months ago, one woman sent me a guest post request, and then ONE HOUR LATER followed it up with an aggrieved-sounding, “Why have you not replied to my email yet?” And it had been AN HOUR people. AN HOUR.

Most people DO wait longer than that, but they will generally follow-up the next day, so on day one I’ll get a couple of dozen guest post requests, and the next day I’ll get a couple of dozen, “Y U NO REPLY?!” ones. It’s exhausting – and also a complete waste of everyone’s time. I mean, wouldn’t it be quicker to just take a look at my website, and find the answer to your question there, than to keep on chasing me for information I’ve already made public? I think so.

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You’re trying to hide advertising in your post

The majority of prospective guest-posters pose as altruistic souls, who seek only to “add value” to your blog, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Awww! There’s a special place in heaven for them, isn’t there?

Actually, though, they all want a backlink at least, and while, for some, that link will go only to their own blog or website, in the hope of attracting new readers to it, the majority of the requests I get these days are actually looking to bury advertising links within the text, either for SEO or affiliate purposes. Sometimes, these links can be pretty dodgy – links to gambling sites, or shady weight-loss supplements, for instance – but they’re all a form of advertising, which is worth being aware of if you’re considering accepting these posts on your blog.

Now, I personally don’t allow people to advertise to my readers for free, but although many guest posters will now offer to pay you to host their content (Normally an insultingly low amount), it STILL wouldn’t be worth it: not only could spammy links to sites Google and co. frown upon be really damaging to my blog, if the content that supports these links is anything like as badly written as the emails containing these offers, that’s not going to be great either, is it?

You’re not the only one with the same idea

With all of this said, though, the main reason I’m not going to respond to your email is because there are just SO DAMN MANY OF THEM. I know it might seem rude not to reply to people, and I’m not normally rude, honestly – but even with the best will in the world, I couldn’t possibly find the time to reply to all of the guest post requests I get: it would be pretty much ALL I’d ever do.

So, these days, I have a disclaimer on my “Contact” page stating that I don’t accept guest posts, and am not able to respond to enquiries about them, and, a couple of months ago, I put an auto-responder on my email, saying the same thing (as part of a more general message saying that I’ve just had a baby and am therefore a bit slower at getting back to people right now: it’s not JUST an auto-response about guest posts..). And now? Now I get people RESPONDING TO THE AUTO-RESPONDER to say, “Hi, Amber, do you accept guest posts?” and then to complain that I STILL haven’t gotten back to them 12 hours later. So, they literally get a message saying, “I don’t accept guest posts and am not able to respond to enquiries about them,” and reply to it to ask if I do, in fact, accept guest posts. I  despair.

And, I mean, I get it: I do. There are tons of advice articles being published at the moment telling people that guest posting is the best way to grow their blog, build their online presence, and enter the kingdom of heaven. And it CAN be, too… IF you do it well. So I’m not telling people to give up on guest posting: I’m just telling them to please, for the love of God, do some research first, and make sure the sites you’re pitching to are relevant to your topic and – crucially – open to accepting guest content. Mine, for instance, isn’t – and if I haven’t managed to get that point across on my contact page and in my emails, maybe this post will finally do the trick?

*Braces self for comments asking about guest posting opportunities*

  • Marie


    I don’t like guest posts for the same reason as you – I read your blog because I like the way YOU write! X

    March 7, 2018
  • Jennarose


    I absolutely agree about guest posts, I don’t like them. I follow a blog because I am interested in that person. If a blog starts guest posting too much I tend to unfollow them. It’s one of the reasons I like your blog so much, your blog is your opinions.

    March 7, 2018
  • Brenda


    As a reader who doesn’t blog, I don’t like guest posts either and I am happy you don’t do them.

    March 7, 2018
  • I so totally agree with all of this. For some reason it’s becoming really frequent now too. I think because all of the SEO guru’s are talking about it being “valuable ” as far as linkbacks. It’s actually irritating. Thanks for sharing and making me realize I am not alone. My blog is MY blog

    March 7, 2018
  • I sometimes like guest posts – IF they fit into the blog content – and found some great blogs this way, but I totally understand everyone who doesn’t like them. And especially everyone who doesn’t want them on their own blog!

    March 7, 2018
  • Hi! I run a blog about tattooing images of Tom Brady on llamas and I was wondering if you accept guest posts? I read your Blog religiously. So far, this is my favorite post! I’ll check back in 20 minutes to make sure you replied and then follow up in case you haven’t.

    March 7, 2018
    • Skimpy


      🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

      March 7, 2018
  • Frankie Baldwin


    Eurgh I write a blog and read them and guest posts are a pet peeve! One of my favourite bloggers hasn’t written a post for her own blog in 6months! It’s just her team writing!!!

    March 7, 2018
  • I totally agree. 😉 What is that book in the pictures? It looks really nice… 🙂

    March 7, 2018
  • I do respect your view on guest posts for your blog but I don’t think they’re so bad to read. I am a blogger myself and I always accept guest posts with open arms, as I don’t mind giving people the opportunity to write for my blog. It’s obviously different because I have only 2500 followers and I don’t make any money from my blog so it’s not my work or business and so there’s no one trying to take advantage of me or my audience. It’s a matter of preference, I guess. I do understand but had never read a negative opinion about it so I am a bit surprised. I would never offer to guest post, I would answer if you were asking for guest posts or if it was something I knew you did regularly. People can be very inconvenient. Great reading and learning a different perspective. Thank you. ?❤️

    March 7, 2018
      • Gosh, I hope they do, Amber! xx

        March 7, 2018
  • Katie Davis


    See, what I’m taking from that is that if I don a red wig and prance about in the snow in impractical shoes you will TOTALLY allow me to guest post.

    I’m tempted to give it a go ? lol

    March 7, 2018
  • Erin


    I 100% agree with everything here. I still read a handful of blogs, and they are all one person/diary format/personal blogs. I’m not interested in reading guest posts while the person whose blog I read because I like it is out of town or busy. I’ll come back to their blog when they are back. And I agree, I hate almost every guest post I’ve ever read. I literally read your blog because I like you, and I root for you when you’re down, and cheer for you when you’re up. I’m here for your stories no one else’s.

    March 7, 2018
  • Well said – exactly how I feel about my blog!

    March 7, 2018
  • D. Johnson


    I, too, love your writing style and perspective. I am beginning to hate the impersonal nature of technology as smut is starting to creep into my Instagram feed. It is an Instagram feed about a PUPPY for goodness sake! I admire your ability to continually weed through this nonsense and I hate the rude demands you endure. I must now go prance around in the snow in my red boots as it’s time to walk said puppy. P.S. Bridget Eileen, your comment had me in tears! I can’t stop seeing tattooed llamas!

    March 7, 2018
  • I’ve hosted a few guest posts but they have been relevant to my blog and were done whilst I was in and out of hospital and struggling to post. What annoys me is the constant emails from Seo companies trying to get you to publish their guest posts. It’s so obvious. I’ve get so many of these as I’ve got a very tiny blog. Dread to think how many you get and can understand your frustration

    March 8, 2018
  • i Just love your writing style so simple and easy to understand.

    March 25, 2018
  • Rabadniertokentorer Marashiona


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    September 21, 2018
  • Lana Wariner


    I think your whole post about Guest Post was rude and very arrogant. Maybe these people are just inspired by you to achieve success blogging as you do and maybe, just maybe they are SAHM struggling to put food on the table while taking care of their kids, therefore they think blogging could give them the flexibility and income to stay at home.

    August 9, 2019
  • drewfrie


    Relevance is a big deal! And frankly, if you’re not someone who’s trying to give me money, I probably won’t care enough to reply to your email.

    May 27, 2020
  • varpho.net


    Relevance is a big deal! And frankly, if you’re not someone who’s trying to give me money, I probably won’t care enough to reply to your email.

    September 1, 2020