I’ve come to the conclusion that autumn and winter just don’t suit me.
Actually, scratch that: over the past few weeks, I’ve slowly been coming the conclusion that clothes just don’t suit me. Er, I don’t mean to imply that I’m just going to start walking around naked or something – relax, people. Recently, though, I’ve taken quite a few sets of outfit photos, wearing clothes I thought looked perfectly fine at the at the time, only to get home and be all, “ABORT! ABORT! SOUND THE HORRIFIC OUTFIT ALARM!”
Sometimes I look back at the photos I’ve taken, and it’s almost like I’m seeing myself for the first time – and it’s all because I keep making the same mistake over and over again: I basically look at someone else (whether it be in real life, or online), admire their outfit, and think that in order to look like that, all I have to do is buy the same – or similar – clothes.
But it doesn’t work like that, does it?
Take these boots, for instance:
I’d been seeing these boots (Or the Chloe ‘Susannah’ version, which they’re a blatant copy of) around the Internet for months now, and although they’re not at all my usual style, my “usual” style has been changing recently, and I’ve really been doing my best to start dressing for my REAL LIFE, (as opposed to that fantasy one in which I’m a cross between a Disney princess and Grace Kelly…), so I was oddly drawn to these. I resisted at first: I think deep down I knew they just wouldn’t work me, but they worked SO WELL on the dozens of super-stylish women I kept seeing in them, and, well, sometimes it’s good to try something totally different, isn’t it? So I ordered them, and then I sat back and started imagining the new, sleeker, more grown-up version of myself I was about to become.
You can see what’s coming here, can’t you? I mean, it’s as clear as day to absolutely everyone who’s ever met me, but the thing is, I ALWAYS do this: I get this idea in my head of how I’m going to look like Alexa Chung, or Kendall Jenner, or one of the women I follow on Instagram: the ones who aren’t supermodels, but who still manage to look effortlessly stylish ever day, in a way that completely eludes me, no matter how hard I try to emulate it. So I buy things I think will help me become this New Me I’ve been imagining – and then I’m inevitably surprised and disappointed when the things arrive, and I don’t look ANYTHING like I thought I would – and nothing at all like all of those other women, who make wearing that thing look easy.
So, surprise, surprise, that’s what happened here. The boots arrived, and they were gorgeous. On their own, I mean. As soon as I put them on, they were totally ruined, because, not to put too fine a point on it, but those boots made my legs look like tree trunks. I mean, I don’t have the best ankles anyway, but the boots turned them into cankle central: they made my legs look the same width all the way down – oh, and the low heel made them look about 3 inches long, into the bargain. It wasn’t good. It REALLY wasn’t good.
I’m not saying that to fish for compliments, by the way. When Terry asked why I was sending back those boots I’d been going on about all week, and I told him it was because I looked like a golf club in them, he was quick to assure me that why no, I DON’T have stumpy legs and candles and I can TOTALLY pull off those boots. But the fact is, I’m not saying these things because I hate myself, or need my ego massaged: the fact is that, yes, I DO, in fact have short legs and a long torso: that’s just a fact – and it’s the type of fact that I really have to be able to accept about myself, if I want to dress well and feel comfortable in my own skin.
It’s quite hard to accept those facts, though. We’re told, after all, that we can wear anything we want (And so we can, obviously: it just might not look that great on us, is all…), and that we should be constantly trying new things and experimenting. I spent my entire working day online, looking at clothes, and the people who wear them: I constantly see things that I absolutely love – and it’s quite disappointing to realise that very, very few of them are things that I’ll actually be able to wear. For instance:
- I can’t wear flat ankle boots, like the ones in the post, because they exaggerate the stumpiness of my legs, and turn them into one giant cankle.
- I can’t wear any kind of ankle boot with bare legs (Like this, for instance: I LOVE this look, but, again, it makes my legs look about 3″ long…), for the same reason.
- I can’t wear pumps in the winter (Like this) because my feet would turn blue from the cold.
- I can’t wear head-to-toe black, no matter how stylish I think it looks, because I have skin like a vampire.
- I can’t wear most of the pinks and reds I love on other people, because they look horrendous against my skin.
There are more, but I’m going to stop now, or this post really will start to sound like an exercise in me looking for head pats and reassurance, which it really isn’t. My point, though, is that, as harsh as it might sound, you really have to know this stuff about yourself. Unless, of course, you’re one of those people who’s just all, “Screw it: I don’t care if it makes me look like a golf club – I’m going to wear it anyway!” I’m NOT one of those people, though – and that’s something you have to know about yourself, too. As unfashionable as it might be to say it, I DO want my clothes to be flattering – which brings me back to my current issue with autumn and winter.
The colder months of the year have always been the least stylish ones for me. I don’t like thick tights, I’m not a fan of the much-vaunted “layering” (Lots of layers just make me look and feel like a badly-wrapped parcel, to be honest…), and while I DO like the traditionally autumnal colours, I basically have around 3-4 outfits which I roll out every year, and once I’ve worn them (and blogged about them), I’m out. My dislike of tights, plus the fact that I’m the kind of person who feels cold even when everyone else is boiling, means I tend to retreat to trousers and jeans at this time of year: but trousers and jeans don’t really suit me very well, and give me a huge problem with footwear (it’s those ankle boots again, folks: I love them, they don’t love me…), so I end up feeling dull and frumpy, and just not myself.
Which is where we’re up to right now. I’ve finally realised that I have to stop making the same mistake, and just accept that I’m never going to look like the women on my Pinterest boards, even if I were to copy their outfits down to the last item. (Which would be super-creepy, obviously, but you get what I mean…) But I’m still left feeling in a bit of a slump, really: one in which absolutely nothing seems to suit me, and I’m not really sure what to try instead.
Outfit posts might be a bit thin on the ground while I figure this one out: unless, of course, inspiration is lurking just around the corner…