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Postpartum Hair Loss and How I’m Dealing With It

[This post is sponsored by Paul Mitchell]

Well, the postpartum hair loss has officially started. Hey, isn’t pregnancy just THE BEST?

So, to be totally honest, the hair loss started a few weeks ago: the only reason you haven’t heard me whining incessantly about it yet is because, so far, it hasn’t actually been quite as bad as I’d anticipated. I mean, when I was pregnant, I was so worried about this that I literally (LITERALLY) had nightmares about my hair falling out in chunks in the shower – it was like Psycho, only much, MUCH scarier.

Well, luckily for me, it hasn’t been QUITE that bad. Like, I still have hair, so that’s the main thing, right? I also, however, have a white wood floor in the bedroom, which means I get to see EXACTLY how much hair I’m losing every time I blow dry it. Throughout my 3rd trimester, that floor was SPOTLESS. Seriously, there was barely a single strand of hair on it, even after a lengthy blow-drying session. Now, though? Now I go and get out the hoover before I get into the shower every morning because there’s SO MUCH HAIR after each blow-dry that you’d think you’d walked into a salon in which someone had just had their head shaved or something. GOD.

Er, after saying it wasn’t that bad, I actually DID make it sound pretty bad there, didn’t I?

It really isn’t, though, honestly. I mean, sure, my floor is a MESS. My hair, on the other hand… well, it doesn’t really LOOK all that different. (SO FAR. Yes, I am aware that if the rest falls out, I’ll be looking like a hardboiled egg in no time…) I can tell there’s a difference in the size of my ponytail when I tie my hair back, but I don’t have any bald spots or a receding hairline or anything, so I’m hoping it really IS just the hair I didn’t lose in the 3rd trimester finally starting to shed, but… well, I guess we’ll see.

(I also guess that a whole bunch of people are primed to type “JUST YOU WAIT!” in the comments of this post, so, you know, PLEASE DON’T. Thanks.)

But postpartum hair loss isn’t my only hair-related problem right now.

No, because my hair might not look all that different to the casual observer, but that doesn’t mean it’s living its best life right now, either. No, I talked a few weeks ago about how the texture of my hair totally changed after I had Max – and how very, very annoying that was for me, because I’d JUST figured out a hair care regime that worked for me, and suddenly those products weren’t cutting it any more, because my ginger hair felt so different. (And also because if my hair HAD to change, why couldn’t it have gone curly, or even wavy, rather than frizzy? WHY?) Also – and I know this is a very bad plan on my part, and probably destined to do more harm than good – I’ve been reluctant to get it trimmed since the postpartum hair loss started, because, even although I know it would be better for my hair in the long run, I just can’t help but be a bit like, “Wait: my hair is falling out as it is – might as well desperately cling onto every last bit of it, then, rather than lose any more!”

Yeah. I’m… not always smart about these things.

The upshot is that my ends are straggly, my roots are still slightly greasy, and my auburn hair is just a whole lot more fragile than it used to be. (Oh, and my floor is covered in hair. Awesome!) This situation isn’t helped by the fact that while I’ve totally given up on curling it, due to sheer lack of time, I still blow-dry it every day, and it takes approximately 100 years each time, so my natural red hair is exposed to a lot of heat. To cut a long, straggly story short, if my hair could talk, it would probably be calling its lawyer and asking to be legally emancipated from me right now. And I wouldn’t blame it.

This is where Paul Mitchell comes in.

The brand recently sent me a little care package designed to help me look after my poor, fragile tresses, and hopefully get through this period of postpartum hair loss with the minimum of trauma. First up, I’ve been using a selection of products from their Neuro Liquid collection, which is designed to help protect your hair against the damage caused by heat styling.

Shampoo & conditioner that’s great for people dealing with postpartum hair loss: or just really fragile hair…

Paul Mitchell Neuro Liquid hair care

Paul Mitchell Neuro Liquid hair care

postpartum hair loss and how to deal with it Here’s what they have to say about it:

“Formulated with exclusive HeatCTRL™ technology and a seductive floriental fragrance, this scientifically proven and vegan-friendly regime allows for guilt-free styling forming the perfect partnership with Neuro® intelligent styling tools. HeatCTRL technology is a scientifically proven blend that activates with heat to help protect against damage caused by daily styling, blow-drying and smoothing. Prevents thermal damage up to 86%

It’s that last bit that particularly appeals to me: I’ve always been pretty hard on my hair in terms of exposing it to heat styling, but right now I worry that it’s just not healthy enough to stand up to that, due to the whole postpartum hair loss issue. In a bid to try to protect it, then, I’ve been using four of the products in the shower and afterwards:

Neuro Liquid Lather Shampoo

First up, can I get a hallelujah for the fact that this comes with a push-top dispenser, so my super-clumsy self doesn’t have to fumble around in the shower, trying to take the cap off her shampoo and then replace it? Love. It. It’s also a colour-safe formula, which is safe for all hair types, and its formulated to remove dirty and grease – yes, even that little stubborn patch on the back of my head – without stripping your hair of moisture and goodness. My hair thanks it profusely.


Neuro Liquid Rinse Conditioner

Once the hair is clean, this product adds thermal protection, so that when the inevitable onslaught of heat hits it, the HeatCTRL technology will reduce the rate of heat transfer. Which is a fancy way of saying, “Your excessive use of heat styling won’t totally wreck your hair now, Amber.”


Neuro Liquid Repair HeatCTRL Treatment

My favourite of the bunch, this is basically an intensive conditioner, which can be left on for 3-5 minutes for a “regular” treatment, or 10 – 15 minutes for a more intensive blast of conditioning goodness. So far I’ve only been going for the shorter option, because, as much as I hate to be That person, I just don’t have the time for extra pampering right now, so if it can’t be done in the shower, it’s probably not going to be done AT ALL. Even just leaving this on for 5 minutes or so, though, really makes a difference to my hair, and it’s the kind of difference you can feel before you even start drying and styling it: even when I’m rinsing it out, I can feel that my hair is smoother and less tangled than it would normally be, so HASHTAGTHUMBSUPEMOJI from me.

Finally, before blow-drying, I’ve been applying a dollop of this:


Neuro Liquid Prime HeatCTRL Blowout Primer

As the name suggests, this is basically a primer for your hair: you just work a small amount of the product to damp hair before blow-drying, and it’ll protect your prechus strands from heat damage, while also helping to tame them a little, and add a touch of shine. It’s not specifically designed for postpartum hair loss, obviously, but I know my hair is particularly fragile because of it, so I’m prepared to use every weapon at my disposal to try and help it.

I’m always a little wary of products like this, purely because my hair has a tendency towards greasiness, and even a small amount of product can leave it looking limp and sticky (I never use styling products for this very reason…), but I use this mostly on the ends and length, while keeping it away from my roots, and it helps me look a bit less like a haystack on legs, so that’s nice. As I mentioned, although I still have that good ol’ greasiness at the roots, the rest of my hair has been quite coarse and frizzy since I had Max (Yeah, I got all the hair-related luck, apparently….), and I find this has a nice smoothing effect, which is helping with that, too.

In addition to the products themselves, I’ve also been looking at the WAY I blow-dry my hair, and have been using this guy for the past couple of weeks:

This is the Neuro Dry High Performance Dryer, and it uses tourmaline ions to dry the hair quickly, and with the minimum of damage. Now, blow-drying my hair is one of my least-favourite activities EVER: honestly, it’s right up there with emptying the dishwasher as one of those chores I’d happily walk over hot coals to avoid.* (*Not really.) So, the fact that this dryer has a 1875-watt motor, which allows it to dry my hair quickly is a huge benefit to me, especially right now, when there always seems to be a million other things I have to do of a morning. This has four heat settings, and the highest one is really pretty hot (So it’s a good idea to use the Primer first, obviously), so it just makes the whole drying process that bit quicker and easier – which then gives me plenty of time to sweep up all of the strands of red hair that end up on my white floor afterwards: sob!

On that subject, I should probably make it clear that, as good as these products are in terms of protecting my fragile hair from heat damage, and giving it a little bit of TLC, they won’t, obviously, stop the postpartum hair loss, which I’m just going to have to live with until my hair finally stops shedding. I mean, it can’t go on like this forever … can it?

Have you experienced postpartum hair loss? How did you deal with it?

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  • Been there twice, and it all passed without bald spots and receeding hair line. Now, two years after my second child, my hair is pretty much back to it´s old volume until shoulders length, so I should probably just bite the bullet and chop it off there. instead I hang on to the much thinner parts undernath as well, for the sake of length. Braids helped me through regrowth period, it wasn´t that bad that way. And they are absolutely on trend right now! Or so I have heard.

    Anne|Linda, Libra, Loca

    May 11, 2018
  • Jennifer


    Amber, postpartum hair loss is not that bad. You’re just losing everything you saved through the pregnancy, so it looks bad. But one thing I’m sure you wouldn’t do that I did was cut your hair off. With my first child, I went a little crazy and cut it all off and that was a really bad idea. It’s not that bad so hang in there.

    May 11, 2018
  • Jennifer


    Yes, that’s what happened to me too. Sometimes when it grows back in, you get little baby hairs close to your face. But that’s not so bad.

    May 11, 2018
  • Alice


    Yes another don’t worry! For most people not is just your hair going back to normal. I noticed hair falling out but the hair on my head never even felt any thinner.

    May 11, 2018
  • Myra Boyle


    If it gets worse and you start to worry about hair loss, I recommend Viviscal which is a product for thinning hair. It has no active ingredients (I checked it with my GP) although it does have horse hair in it (you love that do t you lol). I’ve used it for a while, since my hair got thinner and more see through after the menopause. My daughter also used it after her hair started falling out during a particularly stressful time in her life. It really works to bring back volume and to soften the hair. It’s one tablet a day, and there are a range of hair products that you can buy, but I don’t recommend them so much.

    May 11, 2018
  • I didn’t even know hair loss was a thing post partum. How scary it must be even though you know the reasons behind it.
    Debs @

    May 12, 2018
  • Lori Burke


    I sooooo understand your hair concerns. Having 2 children I was fortunate never to go through the hair loss. What I did experience though was a major change in texture afterwards each time. Prior to my first I had soft, lovely, wavy hair. After my 1st (a daughter) it went bone straight and wouldn’t hold a curl for 5 minutes regardless of products I used. After my 2nd (a son) I’m left with ringlets that “little orphan Annie” would envy. Who knew!! We stopped then because I figured a 3rd would mean I’d be bald (just kidding…maybe)! Good luck and bless those tresses.

    May 12, 2018
  • Kerrianne


    Sulphur supplements from Holland & Barratts genuinely slow the shed and make a whole lot of difference (I found). After you weeks or so there was less hair in the plug hole and it feels just a bit thicker and nicer! I believe it slows down the shedding cycle and allows your hair to grow for longer. I just wish I could have held on to my third trimester hair, it was utterly glorious!!

    May 12, 2018
  • Kerrianne


    *’a few weeks’ not ‘you’!!!

    May 12, 2018
  • lauren


    having never been pregnant, of course i can’t pretend to have too much opinion on the subject.. but i remember having had bead-in hair extensions, nearly double my regular hair weight. and when they were removed after several months of extra-double-million-thick hair, i just felt bald! i imagine the sensation might be similar.

    your pictures today made me think of an entirely different subject – seasons and colour theory. i am not sure what i think i fall under as far as seasons go, but looking at your mint and white shirt, i am certain we are in separate categories. the shirt that looks lovely on you would turn me into a strange bag of cheese curds, though we have similar colouring.. just not the same.

    i wonder if you might try writing up a colour analysis blog entry, especially if it were focused for redheads. lots of seasonal analyses place all redheads as ‘autumn’s, and i think we all know it isn’t quite that simple. you look lovely in mint as an autumn should not, and personally i think i may be a winter redhead. certainly a thought exercise that might be worth having a look at.

    glad to hear you and max and family are doing well!

    May 13, 2018
  • When postpartum hair loss started with me it looked like it was coming out in handfuls! But it made not the tiniest bit of difference to the appearance of my hair and settled down again fairly swiftly. I think it was all the hair that had not fallen out during the 3rd trimester. It was alarming at the time but didn’t have any real effect.

    May 14, 2018
  • Karin


    My first pregnancy was pretty severe. I’m so glad yours isn’t yet. I agree the texture of my hair changed in both my postpartum periods though. I will share the best thing I got recommended was a postpartum hair vitamin for hair loss and its been a gamechanger for me this second pregnancy postpartum. Its from baby blues ( . Has all the good vitamins and minerals hair needs to grow- really slowed down my shedding and helped my hair not feel so dry and thin. Have to share — kinda feel like its mom code to.

    August 1, 2020